Comments on Misgnomers & Misterees: Thoughts for the Single New Yorker

I really like this! Thanks, Liz. I hope you and yo...

2009-12-26T23:35:24.460-08:00

I really like this! Thanks, Liz. I hope you and your hubby are doing great in Oregon.

You have a way with words Miss Lizzy. I definitel...

2009-11-30T18:07:00.966-08:00

You have a way with words Miss Lizzy. I definitely haven't found my niche back in Provo, but c'est le vie, right? I'm sorry I missed Sam's dinner. I would have loved to have seen you.

Thanks, Fapili, for that comment. I would agree. T...

2009-11-12T12:54:53.430-08:00

Thanks, Fapili, for that comment. I would agree. The more I think about it, the more I recognize that feeling less than or "different" in a defensive way is so linked to pride, enmity, and selfishness. Coveting your fellow man's imaginary acceptance into an imaginary elitist club that doesn't even exist is simply a sign of selfishness.

Thanks for the reminder that the organization of the Lord's kingdom is the means for us to help one another, not just greedily seek after our own aggrandizement or ego-boost. If we can forget ourselves and remember to love and serve each other, we'll be embracing the true purpose of the Church as a social structure: it's a way to connect with and uplift each other, and that can happen in so many different ways (marriage included).

And . . . I'm off my soap box.

Single or married, the one thing I've learned ...

2009-11-12T11:57:54.358-08:00

Single or married, the one thing I've learned about being a part of a church or any group of people is that you are never the odd one out when you've made someone else feel welcome and loved. It doesn't matter whether you live in Utah, NY, New Zealand, Washington or anywhere else in the world-"When ye are in the service of your fellow beings, ye are only in the service of your God."

Liz, you are so wonderful! thanks so much for yo...

2009-11-10T18:11:46.122-08:00

Liz,

you are so wonderful! thanks so much for you great thoughts and insights. they made me feel so much better! also thanks for sharing your thoughts on your blog, as they're really inspiring. is nice to read about other people's comments on this and feel that I am not alone, that some of us are different but that it is fine, because we love God, and God loves us back, and that's all it matters. I feel so blessed to have so many wonderful people in my life, you included of course.It would have been awesome to get to know each other better while we were both in provo, but that doesn't mean we cannot be friends now! so lets be friends no matter if you are all the way in the other side of the country! xo

From another single New Yorker: It's taken me...

2009-11-10T15:24:12.920-08:00

From another single New Yorker:
It's taken me a little while to be okay with the fact that my road is not the typical one either, but as this new life settles down in me I feel more and more that I'm where I need to be and I feel pretty peaceful about it all. That said, I definitely can relate with those who wonder why they are the different ones. It's not always easy, though I do have to remind myself that even the people with the lives that seem perfect and right on track have struggles that most of us don't even know about, and would never want.

I was told by a stake president that i need to sto...

2009-11-09T20:42:48.352-08:00

I was told by a stake president that i need to stop putting off marriage for a carreer or a degree (refering to Kimball from miracle of forgivenss) and that i need to stop hanging out (dallin oaks) and that dating is not supposed to be comfortable (deiter uchtdorf).

I feel like singleness in the late 20's is seen as an affliction. Something that needs to be addressed. I have a sinking suspicion that my parents are fasting for me to get married. I don't know how i feel about that.

perfectly stated!

2009-11-09T19:17:01.650-08:00

perfectly stated!

I know that I am not the single New Yorker that yo...

2009-11-09T18:50:45.478-08:00

I know that I am not the single New Yorker that you were addressing, but this post was so good for me. Sometimes I feel very out of place in Utah, which is odd because I never felt out of place in New Zealand.